I am SO obsessed with power lately...
How to not only possess it but to embrace the ownership of it. How to hold on to it. How to feel it in every cell of your being.
On a scale of 1-10, how powerful do you feel?
I'm a 10. For sure.
But why? Where does my power come from?
I wasn't born into it. It wasn't something that I was given through money, or reputation, or any other outside factor.
I love the way I look, but I am not the most beautiful woman in the world. I love the way I think, but I am not the smartest woman in the world. I love the way I create, but I'm not the most creative woman in the world.
I'm not the most ANYTHING...but in my mind, I'm more than enough. And that's all that matters.
And THAT is the first step to retaining your power. That undeniable knowing that you are more than enough. That you matter, more than anything. That you create a sphere of influence that encircles you, and this is absolute truth-no matter who you are.
I sometimes have my hypnosis clients envision themselves gazing into a mirror, and incorporating this absolute truth: there has never been, there is not, there will never be another YOU. Ever. By virtue of that fact alone, you are utterly irreplaceable and of infinite value. And this cannot be argued with. It is as true and real as gravity.
Just acknowledging this truth is one step to attaining power. Because to own it, you need to know that you are worthy of it.
The second piece of owning your power? Truth. Honesty.
Having something to hide immediately sucks away at your power. If you're not living in your most authentic skin, you are leaving gaping holes for your power to escape.
I'm far from perfect, but one of my greatest strengths is that everyone knows it and I DON'T CARE. I embrace being imperfect, and I embrace the fact that I don’t hide it. You want to use my weaknesses against me? Good luck finding one. Because how can you find something to humiliate me, degrade me, impugn my integrity with when I've already proudly handed all of my flaws to you on a silver platter?
Remember that scene in 8 Mile when Eminem is facing his nemesis, and he spews out every weakness, shortcoming, insecurity...leaving his competitor with nothing to work with? THAT is powerful. Being sneaky, hiding behind a façade, pretending while you hide the parts of you that you are ashamed of...these are all HUGE power leaks.
This last piece, for me, is the hardest...but there is huge power in communicating what you want, and then detaching from the outcome. You can only control your own thoughts and actions, not the thoughts or actions of others. Trying to force someone else to change will only deplete the fuel of your power. Better to define what you want, speak it...and then step back and let go of your investment in the outcome. Yes, it's SO hard. (Especially for me, since I'm a doer and a pusher). But draining yourself while pushing someone into your agenda isn't serving you, your power, or your plan.
Simply by virtue of being human, you are a powerful force. Embrace it. This is your fuel to create massive, positive change in this world.