Aren’t we all such walking contradictions?
I feel so confident and carefree in my day to day life. I’m so good about self-care and refusing to do what I DON’T want to do. To the outside world, I am, I daresay, a pretty powerful force…
But put me in a situation where I have to actually confront someone, tell someone “no,” or let someone know that I can’t or won’t succumb to their requests…and I turn into a quivering mess. At least on the inside.
I HATE confrontation. HATE IT. And I hate letting people down. If I get the slightest whiff of disappointment off of someone, I wither and die inside. I can’t take knowing that I’ve hurt someone, let them down, or have some sort of conflict looming in the future. It kills me.
As someone who deals with more people than you can imagine on a daily basis, it’s inevitable. If I caved to every request, if I gave my time and energy to everyone who asked of me, I wouldn’t have time to breathe or pee. (Actually, I don’t have time to do that now…)
I’m lucky in that I tend to attract truly positive, wonderful people into my business. People always think that I’m coating the truth when I tell them that I never have issues with clients being rude, taking advantage, or treating me disrespectfully. But it’s true.
However, my personal life is a different story…
As someone who is a born people-pleaser, I always find myself struggling to draw a line between being kind, generous, and likable…and having people prey on this and suck me dry. And because I am so attuned to my perception of potentially disappointing someone or hurting them, I suffer from these bloodsuckers. I can feel my life force draining away when one of these people gets ahold of me, and it sucks (literally).
Acupuncture helps. Seriously! When you start getting more in tune with your health and energy, it helps you to draw the appropriate lines. This is likely the case for all types of self-care; so much of creating change starts with awareness, and determination to preserve what you hold as invaluable: your health, energy, and happiness.
Acupuncture helps, self-care helps, but I want to take it to the next level.
So often, when I create new events, classes, add extra goodies to my treatments, it’s all coming from my own worldview: What would make ME happy? What’s the extra something that I can add in that would make me feel like I had gotten so much more value from my session? What do I need, that I have a hard time finding?
I need boundary work. I need to find a way to preserve myself while still feeling good. Because when we hold our boundaries in a way that doesn’t resonate with us, it’s even more draining.
I started thinking about how much certain people take from us…and how much we take from OURSELVES. Because yes, there are vampires out there who feed off of us, but we are often equally guilty of making ourselves feel freaking gross.
Maybe your mother/”friend”/coworker is pushing you into doing or believing something that doesn’t serve you. Or maybe it’s that inner voice doing it to you. Either way, it’s equally damaging.
It’s time to learn ways to deal with the a#%holes in your life: the inner ones, and the outer ones.
So many of you need this. We’re all going to rock this.
Keep checking back. This class will be a turning point for you in finding your voice and “no” in a way that feels authentic and safe.
It’s going to teach you how to keep yourself protected again the energy vampires.
And it’s going to teach you how to fight off your own inner a#%hole: that voice that says you can’t, you won’t, you’re not worthy enough or smart enough or pretty enough.
Imagine what your life would feel like if you had zero doubt in yourself. Imagine what it would be like if other’s opinions ever entered the equation. Imagine what it would feel like to not have that irritating a#$hole little voice whispering all the reasons why not.
I’m ready for a new level of freedom. Are you?
This is going to be SO GOOD.