We attract what we feel. This is indisputable.
Every time I wake up feeling grumpy, I find more and more things throughout the course of the day that bring in more grumpiness. Things go wrong, I stumble into rude people everywhere…I turn into a vortex that sucks in jackasses and unexpected bills. When I feel happy, every time I turn around there’s something else to be happy about. People will go out of their way to compliment me, I’ll attract great ideas, life is grand.
For the most part, I tend to stay in this space of being happy, and I honestly believe that this is why my life doesn’t suck most of the time.
Let’s talk about relationships. We attract what we feel.
Many years ago, I was a complete makeup addict. I’ve always loved makeup, but back in my late 20’s/early 30’s I seriously needed a Sephora intervention. I would not even think of leaving the house without full foundation, shadow and liner, mascara, lipstick, and a final puff of shimmery powder for extra glow. This was my happy, comfortable place. A few times I had friends arrive at my place unexpectedly early, before all the makeup. On those rare occasions that I had a bare face, I felt literally naked. I felt like I wanted to hide, like I couldn’t stay far enough in the shadows. It was so uncomfortable and all I wanted to do was stay invisible.
One year, I went to California. I took a solo coastline tour of the Pacific Coast highway, and I felt like my eyes couldn’t open wide enough to take in all the beauty of my trip. I drank delectable wines and ate amazing food. I was sundrenched and filled with a new appreciation for every moment. I was so, so distracted by joy that I accidentally ended up going to a bar one night without wearing any makeup! That had never happened to me before, and I never imagined that it could. I was always so rigid with my makeup routine. But the sun, the surf, the wine…all of it served to bring me to another place where my focus was outside of myself.
As I sat in this bar my myself, relaxed and happy, I was approached by one man after another. I felt like a piece of steak surrounded by vultures. There I was, in a state of facial nudity which would normally have me feeling completely paralyzed with self-doubt, getting so much male attention. At one point, a man sat next to me and commented, “So…I’m gay, and my boyfriend is over there. But I just felt like I had to tell you that you are so pretty. You absolutely glow. Totally not hitting on you.”
I was beautiful, because who can resist straight-up happiness and joy? When you feel that bliss, everyone is attracted to it.
On Friday, July 14th, Marissa Bognanno and I will be hosting a session of hypnosis and energy healing based on this…bringing in that deep self-love, really feeling it, and allowing the feelings to put the energy in motion to attract a partner. I recently had a conversation with a friend who is feeling kind of down about relationships (who hasn’t been there?). She asked, “Why bother? You put so much time and effort into it, and most of the times it ends in heartbreak.”
I see it differently. I honestly believe that every relationship, good or bad, hones us into a better version of who we are. And by the time we meet our true partner, we’ve been through the fire and molded into our soul’s highest potential: enlightened, kind, and self-aware.
This event is going to be life-changing. If you are interested, contact me asap.